'There is no substitute for grieving. Nor is there a timetable or end. I have never understood why lamenting should come to an end. Why expel the dead from our heart? Closure, the word used in popular self-help books for greiving, strikes me as suiting financial settlements. Mourning, even if unresolved and wounding, is negative in word only. A sense of deprivation can expand the heart. Grief, the price we pay for love, can unlock the way to a new basis for repose.'
Richard Giannone, Hidden, p.164.