FRIENDSHIP

'Just as we can't fully explain what is beautiful, so we can't fully explain why we are friends with someone in a way that will make the grounds of our attraction obvious to another - and even to ourselves. Our efforts always leave something out. And it is what is always left out that we try to gesture toward when we say that it is not something about our friends that we love but our friends themselves. But the self that we love is always just one one step behind whatever we can actually articulate. And so we are faced with a choice between saying something that seems informative but is never enough of an explanation ("loyal, practical, unworldly and so on") and saying something else that seems like an explanation but is completely uninformative ("the individual, in the uniqueness and integrity of his or her individuality").'

Alexander Nehamas, On Friendship, p.131.  

SUFFERING

'I am sure that I have run more swiftly with a lame leg than I ever did with a sound one. I am certain that I have seen more in the dark than I ever saw in the light, - more stars, most certainly, - more things in heaven if fewer things on earth. The anvil, the fire, and the hammer, are the making of us; we do not get fashioned much by anything else. That heavy hammer falling on us helps to shape us; therefore let affliction and trial and trouble come.' 

Charles Spurgeon in Zack Eswine, Spurgeon's Sorrows, p.139. 

COURAGE

'...courage is not a mode of behavior but the capacity to know when the brave thing to do is stand your ground and when it is to retreat, when to persist in an effort and when to give up, when it is worth risking your life and when it is not. Courage, like every other virtue, is not a form of behavior but a structure of the soul.' 

Alexander Nehamas, on Friendship, p.79.

DEPENDENCE

'Every person starts out as a child dependent on those providing us care, and we remain interdependent with others in thoroughly fundamental ways throughout our lives. That we can think and act as if we were independent depends on a network of social relations making it possible for us to do so.' 

Virginia Held in Alexander Nehamas, On Friendship, p.53. 

THE HUMAN HEART

'A great sorrow, and one that I am only beginning to understand: we don't get to choose our own hearts. We can't make ourselves want what's good for us or what's good for other people. We don't get to choose the people we are. 

Because - isn't it drilled into us constantly from childhood on, an unquestioned platitude in the culture -? From William Blake to Lady Gaga, from Rousseau to Rumi to Tosca to Mister Rogers, it's a curiously uniform message, accepted from high to low: when in doubt, what to do? How do we know what's right for us? Every shrink, every career counselor, every Disney princess knows the answer: "Be yourself." "Follow your heart." 

Only here's what I really, really want someone to explain to me. What if one happens to be possessed of a heart that can't be trusted -? What if the heart, for its own unfathomable reasons, leads one willfully and in a cloud of unspeakable radiance away from health, domesticity, civic responsibility and strong social connections and all the blandly-held common virtues and instead straight towards a beautiful flare of ruin, self-immolation, disaster?' 

Donna Tartt, The Goldfinch, p.852. 

THE POINT OF BEAUTY

'And isn't the whole point of things - beautiful things - that they connect you to some larger beauty? Those first images that crack your heart wide open and you spend the rest of your life chasing, or trying to recapture, in one way or another?' 

Donna Tartt, The Goldfinch, p.849. 

SUFFERING & THE INCARNATION

'The afflicted do not so much look for comfort to Christ as he will come a second time...as to Christ as he came the first time, a weary man and full of woes.' 

Charles Spurgeon in Zack Eswine, Spurgeon's Sorrows, p.85. 

THE SUFFERING QUESTION

'How can we entrust our sorrows to the larger story of God?'
Zack Eswine, Spurgeon's Sorrows, p.82. 

PASTORAL CARE

'When our noses are rubbed red by tissue and our hair falls out, have you noticed that we can still sometimes muster ourselves to welcome the child's drawing or the well-wisher's handwritten note? We can't take the philosopher's treatise or the theologian's lectures. The friend who motors on with sentences, too impatient with silences, must also wait to visit us on a later day. Sick inside, we simply cannot stomach a full meal. But a bit of cracker can help. A fragment of ice, a few syllables of a word timely chosen in friendship, can go a long way, sometimes, can't they?' 

Zack Eswine, Spurgeon's Sorrows, p.23. 

HUMAN WEAKNESS

'When you see men faint, do not blame them. Perhaps, by their faintness, they have proved of what stuff they are made. They have done as much as flesh and blood can do, and therefore they are faint.' 

Charles Spurgeon in Zack Eswine, Spurgeon's Sorrows, p.48.