'It is too easy for Christians to think of marriage as a discipleship-free zone. So that outside of marriage we talk about sacrifice, taking up our cross and so on. But inside marriage we just talk about how to communicate better, how to be more intimate, how to have better sex, how to be happy. One speaker in a church debate spoke of her desire for her sons to find "a marriage of openness, intimacy, sexual fulfilment and the pursit of personal significance." Instead we should want marriages that serve God. If they are sexually and personally fufilled, well and good. But if they do not serve God, no amount of personal fufilment will make them right.'
Christopher Ash, Married for God, p.40.
