'That is why it is so important to be realistic and to be biblical about death. In dying, I want to say to those I have loved and to those who have loved me: "Don't magnify me - remember the reality: I was someone who sometimes got you cross, and irritated you, and let you down, and disappointed you and hurt you. So please don't remember an imaginary relationship with me. It was good but it could have been better. I loved you, but I could have loved you better - just as you loved me, but you could have loved me better. So don't let's trust in our love for one another. Let's trust in God's love for us so that the change in our relationship, which my death will bring, can strengthen each of our relationships with Jesus."'
Mark Ashton, On my way to heaven, p.23.