'The responsibility to confess sin and expose the darkness lies with the person who has committed the sin. It's not the job of spiritual mentors to to go on a spiritual fishing expedition to reel in a confession from those those they are trying to help. A person passively waiting to provide answers to specific questions is in a far different place spiritually than a person who is willing to take the initiative to expose their struggles in the pure light of day. In other words, keep the responsibility where it belongs and simply invite the person to share where they have sinned and need help.'
Heath Lambert, Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace, p.54.
