Monday, 20 June 2016


'Sometimes celibate people fail to see that some of their own needs are met in the ministry they have chosen. For example, many celibates chose helping roles but fail to recognize that a large part of their motivation may be their normal need to engage others personally and nurture them. But they tell themselves that they have to "get away" from those in order to meet their own needs, and then will be driven by these same unacknowledged needs to overextend themselves in their in their work and say yes to every request for help. Eventually they will think of themselves as "victims," or they will begin to think they have earned the right to have others "take care" of them. They will demand that others meet their needs.' 
Keith Clark, An Experience of Celibacy, p.159.