'To be a real agent for God to connect with the neighbour in the way we have been thinking about, each of us needs to know the specific truth about himself or herself; that is to say, it's no good just saying to yourself, 'I'm a sinner,' in general terms. The specific facts of your experience may or may not be helpful to another - you should not assume that you always need to share the detail, but you need to know it yourself. To be the means of reconciliation for another within the body of Christ, you must be consciously yourself, knowing a bit about what has made you who you are, what your particular problems and brick walls are, what your gifts are.'
Rowan Williams, Silence and Honey Cakes, p.39.
