Friday, 15 April 2016


'Lately, he had been wondering if codependence was such a bad thing. He took pleasure in all his friendships, and it didn't hurt anyone, so who cared if it was codependent or not? And, anyway, how was a friendship any more codependent than a relationship? Why was it admirable when you were twenty-seven but creepy when you were thirty-seven? Why wasn't friendship as good as a relationship? Why wasn't it even better?  It was two people who remained together, day after day, bound not by sex or physical attraction or money or children or property, but only by shared agreement to keep going, the mutual dedication to a union that could never be codified. Friendship was witnessing another's slow drip of miseries, and long bouts of boredom, and occasional triumphs. It was feeling honored by the privilege of getting to be present for another person's most dismal moments, and knowing that you could be dismal around him in return.'
Hanya Yanagihara, A Little Life, p.225.