'People use words to construct promised realities that attach to longings such as freedom, order, protection, work, or love. No abuser says, "Come with me so I can rape you." No-one says, "Marry me so I can batter you." No-one says, "Elect me so I can defraud you." No pastor or counselor says, "Let me counsel you so can sex with you." Instead, we say, "I love you." "I will protect you." "I will help you." "I will bring dignity to you." In Christendom, we can use spiritual language to cloak selfish ambition, hide abuses of many kinds and do incalculable damage in the name of God.'
Diane Langberg, Redeeming Power, p.53.
