'...everyday pastoral care is not the same as spontaneous pastoral care. Do not idolize the spontaneous over the scheduled. People can have rather romantic notions of "community" as a spontaneous activity in which people hang out without that much planning. Somehow community does not count uless it is spontaneous. But there is nothing especially virtuous about spontaneity. When people have busy work lives, community can only happen if people plan to do everyday pastoral care. We all have different personalities and life patterns. Some may need to plan to meet with others or send a regular text or stick a reminder in their schedule. Others will do the hanging out more. We should not value one abouve the other or assume our way of relating is normative. Let us celebrate diversity within community.'
Tim Chester and Steve Timmis, Everyday Church, p.78.
