'Disappointment within marriage has one very clear answer: acceptance. The issue of acceptance is the core spiritual issue that lies at the heart of every marriage. For we are all failures. We are all disappointments. No one person can be all that the other dreamed of. And so we often have to let go of what our ideal of a husband or wife should be like, and give ourselves in love to the one we actually have.'
Elaine Storkey, The Search for Intimacy, p.182.