'Christian tradition emphasizes courage and perseverance in the face of suffering, but even within the church, seeking happiness and avoiding emotional pain have become our higher virtues. Yet this impossible foundation for Christian sexuality and relationships must be challenged. Allowing emotional authenticity to guide us in our long-term relationships is like trusting ourselves to the schizophrenic Gollum - sometimes loyal and sometimes treacherous but ultimately bent on our destruction. Christian marriage has a different genetic makeup, built upon covenant and imaging Jesus's love for the church. We are called not only to seek deep friendship, intimacy, and companionship but also to give ourselves in faithful love.'
Jonathan Grant, Divine Sex, p.49.