'In light of our culture's conviction that covenantal sacrificial love is a sort of "category error," the church requires mature living examples - storytellers who themselves personify the story - who resists the fatalistic narrative through their own faithful relationships and sexual integrity. The Christian vision of human flourishing is most clearly expressed by those people's lives that are bent toward God. It is not enough for pastors to simply teach Christian truth; they need to show what the Christian story looks like. A leader's sexual life is not his or her private business.'
Jonathan Grant, Divine Sex, p.206.